It started again.
Every spring, the media is starting to bombard us with tips and tricks on how to achieve that perfect bikini body for the summer holidays. And it infuriates me…
The whole idea of a bikini body is bullshit. Here’s why:
You Already Have A Bikini Body
The concept of “bikini body” implies that only bodies that adhere to a certain standard of beauty can wear a bikini.
If you have love handles, any excess fat, or a thigh gap, you’d better hide your body under layers of clothing. Or better yet, don’t even dare show up at the beach.
I don’t know about you, but this makes me so mad.
We ALL deserve to have a fun day out at the beach or pool and wear whatever we want to – including a bikini.
In fact, if you have a body, you already have a body fit for a bikini. Just put it on and voilà, instant bikini body right there.
Why The Bikini Body Idea Is Dangerous
If you have a bikini body already, why don’t you feel comfortable in a bikini?
The media has a lot to answer for here. Every day, we’re constantly bombarded with images of beautiful, thin and tall models and celebrities who look perfect all the time. We’re reminded that wrinkles, cellulite, stretch-marks, body hair and any other “flaw” are the worst sins a woman could ever commit.
The media seems to think the only purpose of wearing a bikini is to show off your body to the world, so that people can enjoy looking at it or criticize it.
This insane way of thinking only reduces women into objects. Into body parts to be looked at. Into empty shells. But our bodies are so much more than that.
Why You Should Celebrate Your Body
Think of all your body does for you.
Your body allows you to move, to feel, to laugh, to dance, to smile, to embrace and to enjoy life.
It may not be perfect, but it shows what you went through in life. Stretch marks and a bulging tummies may be reminders that you gave birth to your children, while scars are signs that you survived an accident, for instance.
Your body should be celebrated, not hated. Every flaw, every imperfection is what makes you unique. We all come in different shapes and sizes and went through different experiences that have changed us both mentally and physically.
Don’t be ashamed of that. Remember, there is no one just like you. Embrace it. And besides can you imagine how boring the world would be if we all looked the same?
How To Get Over Bikini Body Anxiety
It’s normal to feel a bit anxious when you’re wearing a bikini. After all, you’re pretty much naked. You feel exposed. Vulnerable. Like everyone’s looking at you. Ponting out your cellulite. Judging you for your stretch marks.
But I can assure you they don’t.
Think about it. When you go to the beach, how much time do you actually spend criticising other women’s bodies? You don’t.
Here’s the secret: everybody is too busy doing their own thing to stare at you.
People go to the beach or pool to have fun. To play volleyball. Catch up with friends. Go for a swim. Read a book even. But no one goes there with the intention to scrutinise women’s bodies and make fun of them.
Plus, those people on the beach are just strangers. They don’t know you and you’ll probably never see them again, so why should you attach so much importance to their opinion?
Instead than worrying about whether people can see your cellulite, go and play beach volley with your friends or eat an ice cream. Isn’t that why you went to the beach in the first place?
Every second you spend worrying about things that are only in your head is lost. So don’t let a stranger, a magazine, or whatever ruin your day. It’s just not worth it.
So go on, don that bikini. You may feel a bit uncomfortable at first but, before you know it, you’ll wonder why you were so scared of it.
Remember, there are no perfect bodies. There aren’t women who can’t wear a bikini and those who can. There are only women who choose to wear a bikini and noone has the right to judge them for it. Ever.
What do you think of the bikini body concept? Share your thoughts in the comments below.