EDIT: 07/09/2014 I want to point out that I’m attacking the belief that we should be thin to the point of anorexia to be considered worthwhile individuals, not women who are naturally skinny. All body types are beautiful. Trying to change them to comform to someone else’s ideal of beauty isn’t.
Can you be beautiful if you’re not skinny?
Judging from the media, you wouldn’t think so. They love bombarding us with pictures of skinny models and celebrities living the high life, dressed in expensive designer clothes, earning millions, and just generally having a good time. Never mind the rest of their life is a mess…
And don’t get me started on the fashion world… It’s not just that models are all skin and bones these days, but most of women clothes seem to be designed for 13 year old girls. If you’re curvy, good luck finding something that fits you.
The message is clear. If you want to be successful, date a hot guy, and be Miss Popularity, you need to be beautiful. And in our society, being beautiful means being skinny…
Who Decided That Being Skinny Is The Beauty Ideal?
If skinny is the beauty ideal to strive for, no wonder most women aren’t comfortable with the way they look. Women come in all shapes and sizes. A lot of it is due to genetics. Not something you can easily change…
But they never tell you that, do they? They make you think everyone can be skinny, if they put in the work. Like exercising every single and eating only green juices.
If you believe that crap, your ordeal starts. You’ll try all sorts of strict diets, extreme exercise regimes, and dangerous pills advertised in magazines.
Wait… Was that their plan all along?
It’s no surprise that magazines love to promote brands who spend millions to advertise on their glossy pages. Even when those brands aren’t in the diet and fitness industries, they still use images of skinny models to advertise their products.
Brands don’t sell you clothes (or whatever) anymore. They sell you an ideal. They want to see their products only on the cool kids. And they arbitrarily decided that the cool kids are skinny.
Luxury is all about exclusivity. If everyone could achieve it, it wouldn’t be exclusive anymore. And what body type is more elusive to achieve than the skin and bones look?
It’s not about beauty or health. It’s all about marketing and image for brands. And they’re killing us all.
Is Being Skinny Really That Beautiful?
First things first: when I say skinny, I mean an unhealthy body type that looks like skin and bones. I absolutely don’t mean women who are naturally skinny.
I have friends who are naturally skinny and they look beautiful and healthy. They don’t have bones sticking out everywhere or eat only green juice and carrots.
There’s healthy skinny and there’s anorexic-like skinny. It’s the latter I have a problem with and will talk about here.
Now that’s out of the way, unhealthy skinny is the idea of beauty that’s constantly being shoved down our throat.
We’re told that skinny is beautiful… but then why do men always say they prefer women with curves?
We’re told clothes look better on a size 0… but most of the times, those women look like they’re wearing sacks. Strapless tops aren’t flattering if you’re a size A – just like maxi dresses don’t suit short gals.
We’re told you’ll never get a good job if you’re not super slim… but if that’s all you’re basing your career on, don’t be surprised when you get fired. Good looks may get you an interview, but they won’t guarantee you a job you’re not qualified for.
The most dangerous lie? We’re told that being thin means being healthy… but the only way most of us can achieve a size 0 is through gruelling diets and exercise. How is that healthy?!
The Downside Of Being Skinny (No One Ever Tells You About)
Again, I’m talking about body types that have been forced to become skinny through drastic diet, exercise and pills – NOT women who are naturally skinny.
Here’s what no one ever tells you about being unnaturally skinny:
- It makes you look older: When you lose too much fat, your face and body take on a gaunt appearance that makes you look older than your real age.
- It makes you ill even to the point of death: Depriving your body of carbs, minerals and nutrients it needs to function properly is never a good idea. It leads to osteoporosis, heart illnesses, eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia. In the worst case scenarios, even death.
Is being thin really worth dying for? NO.
The Bottom Line
Next time someone tries to tell you that you need to lose a ton of weight to become skinny so you can beautiful and worthy of love, don’t buy it. Instead than feeling bad about your body, start questioning this dangerous message.
People come in all shapes and sizes and they are all beautiful. Tall, short, thin, overweight, it is you. Embrace the way you look. Stop worrying about your weight. Focus on being healthy.
Being confident and feeling good about yourself. Smiling and treating people with respect. Being proud of who you are and of what you have achieved. That’s beautiful.
Do you feel the pressure to be thin too? Share your experience in the comments below.