How awesome would it be if every person we met were nice, kind, and considerate? Sadly, we don’t live in a perfect world, and we often have to deal with people who are rude, jealous, and downright annoying.
As much as we try to avoid them, that’s not always possible, is it? Sometimes, we have to work with them, or, worse, they’re family. If that’s the case, what do you do?
Here are a few tricks I learned for dealing with people you dislike:
1. You’re not going to like everyone – Accept It
This is tough, isn’t it? It seems rude not to like everyone. It makes you feel like you are the bad girl here. But, just because you don’t like someone, doesn’t mean you, or them, are a bad person. It just means you have different opinions and clashing personalities. Acknowledge that, and agree to disagree.
2. Be Nice
Easier said than done, I know. But, you should treat everyone like you want to be treated. Not everyone is going to like you either, and you don’t want them to ignore you when you talk or insult you, do you? So, extend the same courtesy to others. Answer their questions with a smile, show your manners, and be as nice as you can. Spread the love, not the hate.
3. Pause and breathe
When someone is pushing our buttons, it’s easy to lose our cool. But, that has never done anyone any good, ever. So, next time that happens, pause and take a deep breathe. It’ll calm down your anger, so you can deal with the situtation, and the offender, a lot more calmy and gracefully. Chances are, when you are having a constructive conversation rather than a nasty argument, you’ll be able to resolve your differences. Or, at least, civilly agree to disagree.
4. Check your expectations
Often, we get annoyed with people because they don’t do what we would do if we were in their shoes. But, that’s just silly. Everyone has a different set of values, character traits, and experiences that makes them behave differently when put in the same situation. It’s totally normal. You don’t act as people expect you to, either. Accept it as part of life, and stop expecting people to be something they can’t be.
5. Voice your needs
Having said that, you are allowed to tell someone when their behaviour is a real problem for you. Just do so calmy and diplomatically. Say something like, “When you do/say/act/etc… I feel unappreciated/disrespected/annoyed, etc”. People will be more willing to change their behaviour around you if they realise they were causing you pain.
6. When all else fails, excuse yourself
You’re not a tree. You’re not stuck where you were planted. You can move. So, if you really can’t stand someone, excuse yourself and leave. You don’t owe them any fancy explanation. A simple “excuse me” will do.
How do you deal with people you dislike?