For most of my life, I loathed my body. I used to think that, if only it were perfect, then I’d be happier and have both the job and man of my dreams. And to make it perfect, I needed to hate it, to punish it into shape. Because, if I started to like it even one tiny little bit, I’d let myself go and become even uglier.
How wrong I was. Those bullshit beliefs are just common myths that kept me, and are still keeping too many of you, unhappy, insecure, and unhealthy. If we truly want our lives to improve, we need to stop believing them, and other common body image myths, once and for all.
Hopefully, this’ll help:
1. Hating My Body Will Motivate Me To Fix The “Problem”
If this were true, you’d have already fixed everything you think needs fixing. Instead, you hate yourself more than ever, right?
Body hate is not motivating. It’s agonizing. It’s debilitating. It makes you focus on your imperfections so much, it blows them out of all proportions, preventing you from living your life to the full.
It’s what made me hide under layers of clothing at the beach or stopped me from applying for some jobs because I didn’t think I looked right enough for them. Chances are, you’re still doing the same.
Stop. That crap doesn’t make us look better. It takes our lives away from us. You live only once. Live to the full.
2. If I Stop Hating My Body, I’ll Let Myself Go
Letting go of body hate doesn’t mean stopping to take care of yourself. It means the opposite.
When I hated my body, I went on drastic diets that deprived it of the important nutrients it needs to stay healthy strong in the attempt to stay as thin as possible. It’s only when I started liking and appreciating it that I began following the balanced diet that my body craves. And I’ve never been in a better shape.
We take better care of what we love than what we hate. So, let the hate go. You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel… and look.
3. I’ll Love My Body When It’s Thin/Curvy/Cellulite-Free/Stretch Marks-Free/Etc
No, you won’t. When, years ago, I lost a couple of dress sizes, like many others before and after me, I became more obsessed than ever with my weight.
And we’ve all heard of those people who go under the knife to correct a small “flaw”, only to become addicted to plastic surgery and have so much work done not even their moms recognize them anymore.
Body hate is a mindset. Doesn’t matter how many “imperfections” you fix, if you train your mind to constantly look for flaws, you’ll find plenty. If you don’t love your body as it is now, you never will.
4. My Job/Relationship/Life/Whatever Would Be A Lot Easier If I Had The Right Body
It’s true. Looks matter. But not as much as you think you do. Your man won’t dump you because you put on a few kilos. And your boss couldn’t care less if you have cellulite. Your friends will still be there for you even if acne has scarred your face pretty badly.
What’ll make them all disappear, and complain about you, is not your looks. It’s the negative way you feel about your looks. Your insecurities and your shame. They poison your every interaction with your loved ones and compromise the quality of your work.
You don’t need the right looks to succeed at life. You just need confidence, perseverance, passion, and the will to work hard. And they only come from experience and self-love, not plastic surgery and a fancy moisturizer.
5. My Body Isn’t Normal
In a world where we’re constantly bombarded with photoshopped images of models and celebrities, it’s easy to feel like an alien for having cellulite, or even just pores.
But pores are normal. We all have them. Cellulite affects most women, and it’s no big deal. Perfectly white teeth don’t exist in nature. And breast aren’t supposed to be just right under your neck.
Every “imperfection” you have is absolutely normal. Normal comes in all shapes, sizes, and forms. Never let anyone make you feel otherwise.
Do you believe these mths? Which other body image myths need busting?