You know how everyone’s always saying your 20s are the best years of your life, and how much they long to go back?
I don’t get it.
My 20s (and teens) were the worst years of my life. Depression and anxiety held me tightly in their clutches. I always lived in fear. Fear of not being pretty enough. Or funny enough. Or smart enough. Fear of saying the wrong thing and looking like an idiot. Fear of making a mistake and being called out as the biggest loser on earth. Fear of talking to another human being because I felt so repulsive, I was sure they were going to hate and reject me.
Fear. Fear. Fear.
I still have fears (don’t we all?), but now that I’m older and wiser, they don’t look so big and menacing anymore. That’s just one of the perks of being 30s. This is shaping up to be the most amazing decade of my life. Here’s why:
1. I don’t care about what people think anymore
I’m finally starting to care a lot less about what people think. In my 20s, I was afraid of everything. I didn’t wear skirts because that’d make me look fancy, pretended I liked music I hated to be cool, and worried about every word that came out of my mouth for fearing of saying something stupid. Now, I don’t care about any of that stuff. I’m done with playing it small and pretending to be someone I’m not to please others. Not everyone is going to like me, and I’m finally ok with that.
2. I take more risks
Because I don’t care that much about what people think, I’m willing to risk failure and make a fool of myself. It makes life much more interesting.
3. I Don’t Waste Time With People I Don’t Like
I used to feel such a failure for having only a small handful of friends. But, now, I don’t care about numbers anymore. I just want to spend time with people I genuinely like and who genuinely like me back. In the past year, I cut a lot of toxic “friends” out of my life. Those who stayed are the true kind, those who stuck by me through thick and thin and always have my back. Cos that’s the only kind of friends worth having.
4. I’m Finally Going In The Right Direction
In my 20s, I was such a mess. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted to do with my life. I had dreams, but they seemed so out of reach, and everything else was just a crappy plan Z. I felt like I was wasting my life away. Now I know what I want and work hard every day to reach my goals. I’m on the right path, and it feels great.
5. I No Longer Care About My Looks
Don’t worry, I’ve not lost interest in makeup and skincare. I’m not letting myself go. I still want to look my best. I’m just not freaking out about my cellulite or feeling shit for not fitting into a size 0 anymore. I now want to be the best version of myself I can be, not look like a model so photoshopped, she doesn’t even resemble a human being anymore.
6. I’ve Found My Personal Style
I’ve worn oversized jumpers that made me look fat. Heavy black eyeliner that made my eyes look like two tiny slits. Blonde hair that washed me out. And anything, however horrible, black, because I wanted to disappear. It took a lot of trial and error, but, now I finally know what suits me and what doesn’t. Blonde hair and dresses that cut just under the knees are not my friends. A sleek bob and A-line skirts are.
7. I take better care of myself
I still have a very sweet tooth, but now I’m munching on more fruits and veggies. I exercise regularly. I wake up early and go to bed early. I’m much more healthier, both physically and mentally.
Do you like your 30s better than your 20s too?